Lillian May (Cap) Barber passed peacefully, on January 25, 2021, at the age of 85. Dear wife to Thomas E. Barber of 62 years. Loving mother to William (Linda) Barber, Shelley (Peter) Cormier, Thomas (Gita) Barber, Ann (Jeff) Scarlett. Cherished grandmother to Govin, Trisha, Nandi, Melissa, Heather, Bram, Emily, Lily, Aaron, Bethany, Calla and Sophie. Adored great-grandmother to Archer and Colton. Beloved sister to Betty Jane Moore and Mary-Jo Whaley (deceased). Cap and Tom have lived in Bolton since 1959, after graduating in 1957. Cap worked as a registered nurse in a local nursing home until she embarked on a journey as a business owner, purchasing Bolton Florist. Cap was actively involved in the community. She was a volunteer with Bolton Ambulance, President of the Bolton Skating Club, and taught Sunday School at Christ Church. Cap worked with Rebekah’s providing free mobility equipment to those in need. In addition, she knitted hundreds of mittens that were donated to Northern Communities. Cap lead the Bolton Florist softball team through many years of merriment. Cap loved to travel. Not only did she love playing dominos in Cuba with her friends, Cap and Tom boarded the plane touring Jamaica, Mexico, Costa Rica, Antigua and many European Countries such as England, Scotland, Italy and Russia. Of highlight were their riverboat trips from Beijing to Shanghai in China and from Budapest to Amsterdam. They enjoyed touring Canada and the United States with cousins Gordon and Elaine in their Recreational Vehicle, highlighting their trips to Alaska, Yukon and Newfoundland and Labrador. Together, Tom and Cap retired and began spending most of their years at Crowe Lake. Cap spent her days watching the birds, swimming and dominating in Euchre. Nonetheless, Cap’s favourite pastime was enjoying a glass of white wine lakeside with friends and family. Cap’s sharp tongue and witty personality made her quick with a joke; illuminating the room with laughter. Her stories and endearing laugh will forever hold a special place in our hearts. We are comforted by the fact she lived a memorable and happy life. She was loved by all who knew her and will be deeply missed. A celebration of life will be held at a later date. Donations in memory of Lillian Barber can be made to the Alzheimer Society of Canada or the Heart and Stroke Foundation. Condolences for the family may be offered at www.EganFuneralHome.com
Bonnie Leslie
Almost 60 years ago I became the Barber’s babysitter. Such wonderful times and experiences I had with them and their babies-Ann I remember your entrance into this world the most! My deepest sympathy to all of you. Remember the truly remarkable woman she was.
JUDITH Van Allen
So sorry for your loss but I’m sure she has another plan in place.
What a wonderful legacy.
Aways remember her as being involved . I met Cap through skating club so many years ago also when I worked at Armstrong nursing home. Such great energy to be involved in her Community
Carole and Don Whitehead
We are so sorry to hear of our long-time neighbour’s death, and will miss her cheerful presence . Many happy memories of her life will be of comfort.
Patti and Len Foley
Tom and family: Len and I are so very sorry to hear of Cap’s passing. She was an incredible woman and well-known and loved in the Bolton community. You have so many memories to hold dear, and sustain you. Cap will live on in the hearts of the large and wonderful family you two created.
Larry and Cheryl Soper
To the Barber family:
Our Deepest Sympathy. Just thinking of her smile brings back many memories. May the happy times you shared make the days ahead a little easier.
Cheryl (Camplin) and Larry Soper
Larry and Cheryl Soper
To the Barber family:
Our Deepest Sympathy to you all. May remembering the happy times you shared make the days ahead a little easier.
Cheryl (Camplin) and Larry Soper
Jean Farndon
Shelley and family, so very sorry to hear of Cap’s passing. So many laughs over the years. She will be missed. Rest In Peace.
Beth Creighton
To all Cap’s Family:
So sorry to hear of Cap’s passing, Cap spent a lot of time at the Moffatt residence on Victoria St. chumming with my oldest sister Jean who passed away 3 yrs ago. Cap was a happy go lucky gal & we sure enjoyed her around our home. My sincere condolence to all her family, cherish her memories in your hearts.
Beth Moffatt Creighton
John Softley
Oh my god, my deepest condolences Shelley and your family. I’ve known your mom for too many yesrs. Going back when she took over the Bolton Florist. She’s in God’s hands now. RIP Cap.
Jeanette Pilson
To the Barber Family:
May I offer my sincerest sympathy in the loss of your wife, mother, and grandmother
Jeanette Pilson
Tom Barber
Thanks for the many kind words.
I am truely humbled but the full life my Mum lived. Her commity service and charity work was tireless. Wow what a great mom ..We will miss you every day.
Diane Killam
Tom and family…my sincere condolences on the passing of a special lady. Stories of many misadventures I could share!!!! Playing ball with her was quite the time. When she got her brand new glove, she told me to play behind her so if the ball comes along the ground, I could get it and her glove wouldn’t get dirty. By the end of the second inning, (every week) she was ready to go for coffee!!! She will be missed by so many……that quick wit and snappy comebacks! Rest in peace, Cap!
Jim and Heidi Sant
We are so sorry to hear about the passing of Cap.
Our sincere condolences to all the Barber family.
Carson McConaghy
I am so sad to hear of Mrs Barber’s (cap’s) passing. As kids we all called her Mrs Barber as we were afraid to call her cap. She was like a second mother to all of us. I am so glad I made the party at Crowe lake in 2019 and got to take her one more bottle of wine, and it was not apple wine which she let me know how bad it was for 25 yrs. Rest In Peace
Carson McConaghy
Marg Pilson
Tom and family, sorry for your loss. We will all have an empty space in our hearts now. From hockey moms to Rebekahs to ‘ just’ friends. Hope there will be some birds and dogs around for her to care for. FL&T. Marg
Audrey , Gerry Tobin
To Tom and your wonderful families. From our family to yours. Please accept our deepest condolences. Cap was a very special person. Our prayers are with you all. Audrey , Gerry Tobin and Family .
Paul & Betty Johnston
Sorry to hear of the passing of Cap. It was always a pleasure doing business with her. She treated you in a very personal way. She will be truly missed in the community. You have my deepest sympathies! Betty
Sharon and Wayne Browning
So sorry to hear that Cap has died. She was a wonderful lady. We chatted almost daily back in the days when I walked to the post office for mail. I will never forget our ride in the ambulance the morning our daughter Katherine was born. So glad we knew her. Please accept our deep condolences.
Don and Wendy
Don and WendyMumby and family
We are truly sorry to hear of your loss. We will always remember the fun times at Caps birthday parties at the lake. Everyone who had the privilege of knowing Cap will surely miss her. Rest In Peace Cap
Ann Marie Bonifacio
My most heartfelt condolences Shelley. I met your mom when you started teaching floral design at Bolton Florist as a night-course over 33 years ago. She was very well known in the community of Bolton for many of her contributions and volunteering she gave throughout the years. I am sure you will miss her very much but her memories of your time with her will always be in your heart forever.
Connie Vanstone
Tom and All the Family.
I am so sorry to hear of Cap’s passing. I had many laughs and fun times with her over the years. Your memories will get you through, and her legacy lives on.
Connie.
Donna Hill
Tom and Family,
Sorry to hear of Caps passing. She was a great lady and loved by all. Your all in our thoughts and
prayers.
Betty Jean & Jim Haighway
Tom and all of the Family:
Cap was a wonderful person, loyal friend and a dedicated member over the years of Humberdale Rebekah Lodge in Bolton. She was a creative floral designer, ready and willing to help make the day better with flowers, laughter, and just giving from her kind and loving heart.
While it has been awhile since our last time together we will always remember the fun and laughter she brought with her.
Cap is now cradled safely in the Arms of God.
Betty Jean & Jim Haighway
Gail Wilson
Dear Tom , Shelly,Bill,Tommy and Anne..Your Mom was a Great person! You will all have wonderful memories as our family does. May she rest in peace. Love to all. Gail ,Cheryl and Bradley Wilson.
Paula (Tobin) MacDonald
My heart felt condolences for your loss. There is so much I remember as my childhood was wrapped up with the Barbers, from figure skating, being neighbours and especially being friends with Ann.
I remember your mom’s robust laugh and her wonderful spirit. Many memories of the cottage.
She truly was a wonderful and energetic person.
LeeAnne Rescorl
To the entire Barber family,
I extend my deepest condolences on the loss of Cap. She was one of a kind and will be greatly missed. It was inevitable that you would run in to Cap at any given community event. If something was happening in town then Cap was there. She was always eager to share her wit and experiences with you and partake of the action around her. May you keep her spirit in your hearts at this most difficult time.
To my nieces Bethany and Calla, Know your Nanny loved you and you brought her joy, love and laughter. Remember all of the fun and all of the good times you shared together. These are the things you can carry with you forever. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Alfonso
My deeps condolence to The barber family.
Marnie and Murray Stewart
Dear Tom and Family
Marnie and I are so sorry Cap was not able to continue enjoying your retirement together. We trust that memories of your extensive travels and summers with family at the cottage will be a lasting source of help and conversation. We will always remember your Family as dear and helpful neighbours of my parents when they retired from the farm to 85 King. Be of good cheer ,knowing Cap is at peace and her legacy continues with your Family and our community
Howard and Sharon Venning
Dear Tom and family
We are so sorry to hear of Cap’s passing. Our deepest sympathy to everyone.
Cap was such a great lady. She certainly could light up a room with her laughter. I played slow pitch on her team and
there was never a dull moment. The highlight of the evening was coffee time and she still managed to keep us all entertained , giving us pointers etc.
Many memories over the years, as she spent time with Bill and Versile and family. Many good times for all.
Hold those memories close to your hearts and she will be with you always.
Our sincere condolences to all
Howard and Sharon Venning and family
John and Verna Traynor
Our condolences to the Barber family
Holly Holman
I knew her as my Aunty Cap. She was my mums best friend, and for as far back as I can remember she was always an important influence on me. Years of visits to the cottage, watching her with mum and many other Rebekah Lodge ladies make a difference in the community. Winter seasons brought on more visits to The Barbers home, Aunty Caps kitchen, and all the wonderful baking created by her and mums two hands. As I got older she and I would pretend to hold a contest for prettiest Christmas tree , some how judged the winner every year. I tried, maybe won once 4 years ago … by some default, now that I look back. I loved her. I miss her, her spunky presence, wisdom, and kind heart.
She made an impact on my mums life and mum is forever grateful for it. Their years together as friends, Rebekah’s, colleagues and confidant will never be erased, nor the impact it all has made.
From our hearts and our souls here, we send you our deepest condolences and our sympathy to Tom, Kids and entire family.
Cathy, Merv & Holly Holman
Waneeta Robertson
Worked with Tom for many years and met Cap a few times. My condolences to Tom and family.
Pam Robinson
Having worked for both Shelley and Ann I met Cap on numerous occasions and each time she’d bring a smile to my face,
her quick wit always had me laughing.
A lovely lady, who will be sadly missed.
With our deepest sympathies
Paul and Pam
Debbie Webster
Dear Tom and Family: I am so sorry to hear of Cap’s passing. I always enjoyed seeing her and chatting at MTRCA events and gatherings and I will sure miss her sense of humour. Please accept my sincere condolences at this very difficult time.
Tom: It was nice chatting with you yesterday, although under these sad circumstances. I pray that you will keep safe and well, as you continue to cherish all the special memories of your beloved Cap.
Take care,
Deb
Marilyn Farrell
Dear Tom, I was so saddened to hear of Cap’s passing. I hold many fond memories of sharing good times with you and Cap at many special events held by the MTRCA over the years. She was a wonderful person, always cheerful and ready to share a joke or two. Please accept my sincere condolences to you and your entire family. May the many cherished memories you hold in your hearts bring you comfort.
Marilyn Farrell
Dorothy Mumby
With sincere sympathy to Tom and all the family. She will be missed by all who knew her.
I remember all the family gatherings and Cap’s Birthday Parties at Crowe Lake as very
special times with lots of fun and great food. I hope that special memories will help ease
your grieving. Cap is at peace.
Paul Raymond Wharton
Our deep sympathy and sincere condolences to Tom and the Barber family. Losing a love one is never easy but there should be much Joy in celebrating a long, fruitful and meaningful life. Cap will be sorely missed but remembered for all the wonderful things she did. May she rest in peace. My happy memories with Tom go back many many years.
God bless you all.
Paul & Theresa
Ann, Peter, and family.
Anyone who has spent time along Lakeshore Road at Crowe Lake during the 1960 – 2020 era has gotten to know and appreciate Cap. We have known her as a friend, a relative, a mother, a grandmother, a dog walker, a card player, a raconteur, and a hostess. She excelled in each of these categories, and will be sorely missed by all.
Isabelle Bottoms
Tom and family, Sincere sympathy to all. Ray and Cap attended Brampton H.S. at the same time and both volunteered for Bolton Ambulance . Cap just delighted in putting an Elastoplast strip on Ray’s hairy arm at blood donor clinics.
Memories of Cap include- her knitting of many hats and mitts for charity; walking her dog and always having time to chat; her humor always added to any occasion; and working with her washing many heads of lettuce in a deep sink at Bolton Dairy for a large gathering. Rest in peace, Cap.
Clare Gorman
Tom…Jerry and I are so sorry for your loss. Cap’s quick sense of humor and witty remarks will be missed by both of us. May her memory be a blessing to you and your family. She will be remember fondly by many in our community.
Chris Nelson
My condolences to the family .Cap will be greatly missed,but her warmth ,kindness, sense of humour
And gentle spirit will be remembered forever.
May she R.I.P.
Barbara Bunton
As many have said, Cap’s life has touched us all. She was such fun…with the mischievous twinkle in her eye. She made ladies softball a blast…coffee time was just as important. Many memories of interactions with Cap throughout our time in Bolton. Such a wonderful woman and a role model to us all. She knew how to get it done…and have fun too.
My condolences to the family.
Wayne and Terry Stoddart
Cap was a great lady and will be missed by many. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family at this time.
Carol Seglins
To Tom and all the Barber family
My condolences to all on the passing of your wonderful wife and mother. Cap was such a giving person and very involved in the community. She will be remembered always with her warm and caring smile and appreciated for all her contributions.
Sincerely
Carol Seglins
Michael Cassidy
I wish to express my sincere condolences to the Barber family over the passing of Cap. Her valued friendship will be greatly missed.
Judy Cassidy
Dan & Susan Adams
Cap was one of a kind. Our heartfelt condolences to the Barber family on your loss of one special lady. May she now Rest In Peace.
David&Vicky Munro
Our deepest condolences to all the Barber family .
So many of the old Bolton residents have left us this last while , we moved to Bolton back in 1970 , when I opened my butcher shop on Main Street , and we were well supported,by the community ,but more importantly made to feel we belonged.
Tom and I first met while volunteers with Bolton ambulance .
And later Cap had the florists just up the street ,and good for laugh and a chuckle always !!
Great times ,Cap always a huge community person .
Rest In Peace Cap .
Dave&Vicky Munro
Valerie Simpson-Francis
To The Barber Family
Our most sincere condolences on your loss. Cap was indeed one of a kind, she will alway be held in very high esteem by all our family. Thinking of you all at this time.
The Simpson Family
Sheila, Jacky, Geoff and Val
Lynn Robertson
I was very sorry to hear about Cap’s passing. I spent many hours working with Cap at the old Bolton Nursing Home. She always made our time go quickly with her stories and her quick wit. Later on, we also use to meet from time to time when she was out walking with her dog. She was a character who will be remembered with smiles by many people.
Maria Birmingham
I am so sorry to hear about Cap’s passing. I worked at Bolton Florist during the late 80s and have the fondest memories of her. She had a quick wit, and I still remember her smile and big laugh. My sincerest condolences to Shelley, Ann, and the entire family. Rest in Peace, Cap.
Luther Village On The Park
I was saddened to hear of Caps passing . in earlier years Jan and I shared many good times together visiting you both at your home in Bolton and at the cottage. We enjoyed her warm sense of humor and
friendliness a
my condolences to you Tom and to your family…..she will be missed by all who knew her
Bob Pullin
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Luther Village On The Park
I was saddened to learn of Caps passing…. my condolences to you Tom and to your family….I remember fondly our many visits to your home and cottage….particularly in the early years after our graduation…she was a warm and friendly person and will be greatly missed by all who knew her…all the best
pia hunter
My deepest sympathy to “The Barber Family ”
I loved having her in my office , listening to her travel stories… she will be forever remember …..
Your Pia forever
Miurray and Margot Johnson
Cap’s life and memories are an inspiration to the broad Barber family and community of Bolton. You can take pride in all she did. Tom Sr. , we are in your thoughts.
Jenny
Omg. Just heard about Caps passing today. Our condolences To all the Barber family. I worked with Cap at thé Armstrong Nursing Home in Bolton many years a go. Fantastic lady, caring loving and so much fun. Later of course we continued our friendship when visiting Bolton Florists., RIP cap. Jenny and Don Ogden
Ken Graham
Sounds like a lady who could do just about anything with a smile. Hats off to you Cap and Tom for volunteering in the early days of Bolton Ambulance.
Lori Arthur
Our deepest condolences to all of Caps family at this time, our thoughts are with you.
Steve and Lori Arthur
Jennifer Law
My heartfelt condolences and sympathy to the Barber family on the passing of “Cap” I grew up with the Barber kids and lived across the street until 1972, I have many fond memories of “King Street”and Cap was certainly one of the main fixtures of the neighbourhood. I hope the love and memories that you have will help through this very sad time.
Jennifer Law (nee Smith)
Mary DeFrancesco
To Bill, Shelley and all the Barber family, my sincere condolences.
Her spirit will be kept alive with all the memories she has shared with everyone who was blessed to have known her. I pray that your own happy memories give you the strength to heal .
Gary and Marg McGrath
We are so sorry to hear about Cap’s passing. She will be missed by many. As a friend through Christ Church and the Circle of Friends, her contributions where very much appreciated. We had a lot of fun when Cap would call and say that she had a bag of mitts and please bring over more wool as her fingers were getting cold. “Don’t forget to bring me the old wool” Cap would say with a smile. Rest in peace.
Susan Koschmider
I am sorry to hear of Cap’s death. I met her through Bolton Florists and appreciated the beautiful store and the excellent service she provided. Her humour was marvellously snarky. In the last few years we would meet out walking on King St.
Wendy Cook
Shelley and family
So sorry to hear of the passing of your amazing and funny Mom. I so loved our chats at the florist. Cherish the memories.
Wendy Cook
Maureen E Kowal
To Shelley and family
Memories of your mom working in the flower shop downtown Bolton and coming to the pharmacy with her little dog, always happy to see Cap. Stories she would tell
God surround you with his peace at this time
Maureen Kowal
Marilyn Strain
To the Barbers,
I am so sorry for your loss.
My memories of Cap are all mixed up with my brothers playing hockey, being a rink rat, a cottage in Marmora (?), but mainly with my mom… Cap and my mom as constants in the seats at the rink, cheering on their kids, with their coffees (?) and having a great deal of fun always. She was larger than life to a little kid.
So strange that Cap and my dad are beside each other in this way.
All the best to the family, my thoughts are with you,
Marilyn
Gillian and Bill Smillie
Dear Tom and family,
We will miss her bark, bite and smile, as she walked with Bear and stopped to pass the time of day. We will miss her stories of the town, it’s people and her family. We will miss her honesty. Rest easy friend.
Bette Jahnke
Tom and family…our deepest sympathy to you and your family.
My Mom (Doris Gibson) was a friend and was with her in Rebekah ‘s. Mom visited with her when she would be back to Bolton and when ever we needed Flowers we would call on her
All the best to you and your family
Bill Mueller
Bill and family. So sorry to hear about the passing of your mother. Condolences from the Mueller family.
Bill Mueller
Abbotsford B.C.